After nearly two years of conscious uncoupling, last weekend on the full moon my spouse and I participated in a ceremony. I was standing in Griffith Park overlooking the place we were married 16 years ago and he was at our last home together, children’s home on Maui where the hand-fasting chords from our marriage ceremony have been draped in plain view for years. I had the clarity that a ceremony was required. The energy we called in our wedding day and the contract and energetic cords we invoked that day could not be broken or ended without an energetic closing. Following this ceremony – the energy did feel different between us. There was a release that felt comfortable and relieving. The details of the legalities I feel will be easier to follow through on now that the energy of togetherness has been shifted into separateness.
On the chosen day of our Handpart ceremony, at Griffith Park, I smudged the space with sage essential oil and formally called to the four corners – as we did in our wedding ceremony. We then, with the witness who showed up for each of us – got on a video call. I opened by speaking an invocation of elementals of these places, our ancestors, spirit guides and angels.
Then the ceremony began, we each had the words prepared in front of us:
Me to Spouse:
Magic brought us to each other
Magic bound us in our hearts
From that magic I release you
go in grace
go in health
Merry part, with understanding
I honor all our memories
The lessons they impart
I wish you well, good journeys
Spouse to Me (virtual from Maui):
Magic brought us to each other
Magic bound us in our hearts
From that magic I release you
go in beauty
go in peace
Merry part, with compassion
I honor all our memories
The lessons they impart
I wish you well, good journeys
Together:
From our vows we release
The threads of our life stories
We braided at the start
We now unbind that magic and release our intention allowing it to flow away from us and re-direct into the lives of our children. Out of our seperation and disconnection they now hold the lineage that was formed by our handfasting.
We pledge to cooperate together as we continue to parent and love our children.
Jen Officiating:
Our work together as husband and wife is finished. On this day we hand-part under the light of the Virgo full moon. In this year of the wood dragon, witnessed by both Venus and mars in conjunction before the lunar eclipse of 2024.
Witnesses:
“So may it be. God/Goddess bless, merry part!”
The handfasting chords are separated and made into gifts for the children of the marriage along with any wedding bands that symbolized the marriage in the daylight. (Placed into boxes with their individual names) The divorce is to be filed by the following new moon.
I creating this ceremony I borrowed inspiration from The Handparting Song, link provided below.
I hope this post inspires you to find new ways of seperating and divorcing that are grounded in healthy and heart centered intentions.